Porn Destroys Lives and Families

  • Pornography is becoming a substitute for marriage. 

  • Porn shatters lives as it promotes adultery, destroys jobs, relationships, marriages and families.  There is a common thread of anger and impatience on the part of the person involved in porn—the anger is directed at the wife and oftentimes the children.  
  • Porn destroys marriages.   Porn addiction brings porn images into the marriage and creates unreal expectations, inhibits true intimacy, and deadens the male response to real women and natural relationships.  A husband addicted to porn will lose his capability to love and respect his wife; and as his wife becomes boring to him, he will lose the real intimacy and real love in that relationship.  He will always be looking for the higher high, which is unattainable.  No spouse can compete with the Internet at that level of stimulation.  Porn use is a form of infidelity, as it introduces a 3rd party into the marriage.  The addict’s wife will eventually know of the addiction and feel betrayed, and the marriage will often end in divorce.  The addict often loses both his wife and his children. 

  • Porn addiction can have a long-lasting, devastating effect on you, your family, and society in general.  Porn can cause severe depression, low self-worth, guilt, shame, anxiety disorders, financial problems, loss of employment, inability to form lasting relationships, inability to deal with sexual abuse issues, intense criticism of actual relationships, break-up in marriage, lying chronically to the people they love, and lead to criminal charges. 

  • Teach your children, teenagers, and young adult children that pornography will work against everything that is beautiful and sacred about sexuality.  

Statistics
  • An estimated 47% of families in the U.S. report that pornography is a problem in their home.  (Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003; National Coalition for the Protection of Children and Families, 2013) 

  • 87% said that their partner’s online cheating (by porn or other means on the internet) had a negative affect on their relationship. 41% called their partner’s online cheating significant, while 35% said it caused an end to the relationship.
   (From a survey taken by Robert Weiss, a counselor who works with sex addiction., Huffpost, January 7, 2015)

What You Can Do
  • Every child who has any access to the internet and digital world can be taught about the dangers of pornography in a simple way they can understand.  Parents and grandparents can teach very young children to recognize pornography, how to respond, and how to help a child forget bad pictures.  Read Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, Jr. - a Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds, by Kristen A. Jenson, MA. 

    By age 6 or 7, read your child the book Good Pictures Bad Pictures:  Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids, by Kristen A. Jenson, MA and Gail Poyner, PhD.  Children will learn 5 powerful lessons:
  1. How to recognize pornography by the way it makes them feel.
  2. How looking at pornography can become a real addiction, like drugs or alcohol.
  3. How to keep their thinking brain in charge of their feeling brain to stay safe.
  4. How to keep their attraction center from being tricked by pornography.
  5. How to use the CAN DO Plan to effectively reject every exposure to pornography.
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