Children need fathers in their lives,
and in their homes.
- What Do ALL the Mass Shooters Have in Common? No Father in the Home
The one common thread among all the recent mass shooters is they are children of single of mothers. These young men had no male role models in their homes.
For 50 years, our society has encouraged women to be single mothers despite all the research proving it is detrimental to a child to be born into a home without a father. Children born to single mothers are twice as likely to become delinquent.
If we look at the recent spate of mass shooters, they all grew up in single family homes. (Cho at Virginia Tech may have been the exception although he seemed to be missing guidance from either of his parents. They did not seem to have been aware of his problems which began in middle school.)
- A child born to a single mother has close to a 40% chance of growing up in poverty while a child born to a married couple has less than 4% chance of growing up in poverty.
- Children of single mothers are 14 times more likely to suffer abuse; and if the mother lives with a man who is not the father of the child, the chances of abuse increase to 33 times that of a married couple. Worse, the children of single parents are more likely to grow up and repeat the pattern, a pattern that is detrimental to children. Despite what the liberals have told us,
Our society could cure a lot of ills by not encouraging women to be single mothers. These women should put their children first and not become mothers if they aren’t in a stable, married, relationship. It’s simply not fair to children.
Harvard sociologist Robert Sampson has written that “Family structure is one of the strongest, if not the strongest, predictor of variations in urban violence across cities in the United States.” His views are echoed by the eminent criminologists Michael Gottfredson and Travis Hirschi, who have written that “such family measures as the percentage of the population divorced, the percentage of households headed by women, and the percentage of unattached individuals in the community are among the most powerful predictors of crime rates.” (National Review)
When will our society stop pretending that children raised by single mothers turn out ‘just as good’ as those raised by a married couple? They don’t. These children suffer every step of their lives and so does our society. Our jails are packed with men and women from homes without a father. We all pay the price, but these children pay the greatest price.
When will we put the needs of our most vulnerable, infants and children, ahead of the wants of adult women? Which is more important to our future as a society? The answers are obvious.
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
- 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes
- 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes
- 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes
- 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes
(source: https://bearingdrift.com/2014/07/22/liberal-mission-to-replace-fathers-is-still-failing/ )
(source: "What Do ALL the Mass Shooters Have in Common? No Father in the Home, " by Jeanine Martin February 14, 2018)
- The Las Vegas shooter grew up without a father at home, because his father was in jail or running from the law for most of his life.
- The Florida high school shooter Nikolas Cruz was age 4 when his adoptive father died. His adoptive mother died in November 2017, about 3 months prior to the shooting that took 17 lives and injured many others.
These mass killings happen with relative frequency, and they are usually not perpetrated by men who grew up in strong families with both biological parents present. Divorce and fatherlessness are the two elements that tie most of these cases together. No other factor — gun laws, politics, racism, etc. — comes close. Even in cases where the killer’s parents are still married, a closer inspection will often reveal a home filled with instability and chaos.
It is challenging and difficult to be a parent and a spouse. It takes a lot out of us. It requires so much of our time and our love and our money and our selves. There’s pressure. There’s stress. Sometimes, we have to put other people above our own personal enjoyment. If we acknowledge that our kids need us, that they depend on our presence, that they require our full-time love and support, then we’ve backed ourselves into a corner. If the going gets tough, we have to stick around. If we feel unhappy one day, we have to work through it. If we need a break from all this parenting and spousing stuff, we can’t just leave. We minimize the importance of families to provide ourselves with an escape hatch, should we need it. We know that families are work, families are sacrifice, families are not designed solely to bring us pleasure and amusement every second of the day, and so we’re terrified of professing our undying loyalty to it. These are scary propositions — duty and responsibility.
So why aren’t we talking about this? I don’t think all of our problems in society can be solved through stable families, but I do think that, if we want to address them, we should begin with the simple but hard things: staying married, raising our kids, being examples, instilling faith and values, teaching them how to be good people, etc. It’s not foolproof, but it’s a start. We just have to be willing to do the work. (source: "Our Kids Don’t Need Gun Control Laws, They Need Fathers," by Matt Walsh, Oct. 5, 2015)
- President Barack Obama, speaking on the tragedy of Mass Shootings
over 6 years in America, as he delivered his 15th statement on gun
violence. "The reporting is routine. My response here at this podium
ends up being routine, the conversation in the aftermath of it. We've
become numb to this."
November 2009, Ford Hood, Texas.
"There has been a tragic shooting at the Fort Hood Army Base in Texas.
It is difficult enough when we lose these brave Americans in battles
overseas. It is horrifying that they should come under fire at an army
base on American soil."
January 2011, Tucson, Arizona. "This is a tragedy for Arizona, and a tragedy for our entire country."
July 2012, Aurora, Colorado.
"Such violence, such evil, is senseless; and if there is anything that
can be taken away from this tragedy is the reminder that life is very
fragile. Our time here is limited, and it is precious."
June 2015, Charleston, S.C.
"I have had to make statements like this too many times. Communities
like this have had to endure tragedies like this too many times. At
some point, we as a country will have to reckon with the fact that this
type of violence does to happen in other advanced countries. It doesn't
happen in other places with this kind of frequency."
August 2012, Oak Creek, Wisconsin.
"We mourn those who were senselessly murdered and injured in their
place of worship. While we may never understand what motivates such
hatred, such violence, the perpetrators of such despicable actions must
know that your twisted thinking is no match for the compassion and the
goodness and the strength of our united American family."
December 2012, Newtown, Connecticut.
"We have endured too many of these tragedies in the past few years.
Each time I learn the news, I react not as a President, but as anybody
else would, as a parent, and that was especially true today. I know
there is not a parent in America who does not feel the same overwhelming
grief that I do. The majority of those who died today were children,
beautiful little kids between the ages of 5 and 10 years old."
September 2013, Washington, D.C. "We are confronting yet another mass shooting, and today it happened on a military installation in our nation's Capitol."
April 2014, Fort Hood, Texas.
"Any shooting is troubling. Obviously, this opens the pain of what
happened at Fort Hood 5 years ago. We are heartbroken that something
like this might have happened again."
June 2015, Charleston, S.C.
" I have had to make statements like this - too many times.
Communities like this have had to endure tragedies like this - too many
times. At some point, we as a country will have to reckon with the fact
that this type of mass violence does not happen in other advanced
countries. It doesn't happen in other places with this kind of
October 2015, Roseburg, Oregon. "There has
been another mass shooting in America. This time in a community college
in Oregon. That means there are more American families, moms, dads,
children, whose lives have been changed forever....As I said just a few
months ago, and I said a few months before that, and I said each time we
see one of these mass shootings, our thoughts and prayers are not
enough. It is not enough. It does not capture the heartache and grief
and anger that we should feel, and it does nothing to prevent this
carnage from being inflicted someplace else in America. But we are not
the only country on earth that has people with mental illness who want
to do harm to other people. We are the only advanced country on earth
that sees these mass shootings every few months.
Somehow, this has become routine.
The reporting is routine. My response here at this podium ends up
being routine. The conversation in the aftermath of it - we have become
numb to this. It cannot be this easy for someone who wants to inflict
harm on other people to get his or her hands on a gun. And, what has
become routine, of course, is the response of those who oppose any kind
of common sense gun legislation."
(President Barack Obama,
addressing the nation from the White House after at least 10 people were
killed by a 26-year old gunman at Umpqua Community College in Oregon;
CNN News and The Associated Press, October 1, 2015; "Over 6 years, as he
has had to address numerous mass shootings, President Obama's
statements have grown angrier and more beleaguered," by Caitlin Prentke,
June 26, 2015)
- Guess Which Mass Murderers Came From A Fatherless Home? There’s a direct correlation between fatherless children and teen violence. (source: Guess Which Mass Murderers Came From A Fatherless Home, Peter Hasson, the Federalist, 2018)
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