Marriage & Divorce

  • "I cannot hide my concern for the family, which is threatened, perhaps as never before, from within and without.  Fundamental relationships are being called into question, as is the very basis of marriage and the family.  I can only reiterate the importance and, above all, the richness and the beauty of family life."  Pope Francis said he will "support the institutions of marriage and he family at this, a critical moment in the history of our civilization."  (Pope Francis' address to Congress, September 24, 2015)

  • The family is the foundation of co-existence and a remedy against social fragmentation. Children have a right to grow up in a family with a father and a mother capable of creating a suitable environment for the child’s development and emotional maturity.  (Pope Francis, Humanum Conference, November 17, 2014)

  • While the idea of marriage is still a matter of "intellectual debate" among elites in American society, marriage itself is not a matter of debate for them in practice.   Elites get and stay married and make sure their kids enjoy the benefits of stable marriage...The problem, however, is that (they) tend not to preach what they practice.  They don't want to "impose" on those who really could use their moral leadership, but it is perhaps time for those with education and strong families to stop feigning neutrality and start preaching what they practice pertaining to marriage and parenting...(and) help their fellow Americans embrace it."  (Source:  "Hey Progressive Elites!  It's Time to Preach What You Practice," Editor Hal Boyd, Deseret News, Oct. 20, 2016, deseretnews.com; an University of Virginia sociologist W. Bradford Wilcox) 

  • Success and happiness in life. 

    A research project
    was commenced in the 1940s.  Initially there were 268 men who were attending Harvard University and were periodically studied over their entire lives. Later others, including women, became part of the study. The goal of the original study was to find out about success and happiness. The study showed that college entrance scores and grade averages did not predict either success or happiness in later life.

    This study contains three significant insights for us today.  First, adult happiness had a high correlation with childhood family happiness, especially love and affection from their parents.  Second is the importance of a healthy, stable marriage to lifelong happiness. 

Third is the negative effects of alcohol on marital and lifetime success and happiness. Alcohol abuse touches one-third of families and is involved in one-fourth of hospital admissions.  It plays a major role in death, bad health, and diminished accomplishment.  (source:  Decoding Keys to a Healthy Life, http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/20212/02/decoding-keys-to-a-healthy-life/; and George E. Vaillant, Triumphs of Experience: The Men of the Harvard Grant Study (2012), 108–9.)
  • "America's 50% divorce rate is an American tragedy that no one talks about...When do we ever hear a presidential candidate talk about the divorce rate?"  If elected, Boteach said he would push for tax deductible marriage counseling until the nation's divorce rate declines by half.  (Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, 2012 New Jersey GOP nominee for Congress)