Digital Infidelity

  • Technology provides instant access to virtually anything, including an endless source of digital porn, sex, and relationships via social media and online platforms.  Digital infidelity has become a growing problem impacting Americans of all races, ages and demographics.
Women tend to become much more disturbed by "cheating" or emotional contact online, while with men it is really about the images and the physical contact.  Up to 20% of users are addicted to sexual activity online.

There is also a rise in back-burner relationships created on social media sites, like Facebook.  Back-burners are platonic online relationships that people maintain just in case their current relationships "go south."  Men pursue these relationships at roughly twice the rate of women, according to an Indiana University study. 

"If somebody feels there is something wrong, the majority of time there is something wrong.  Somebody may not be cheating, but there is something wrong in the relationship....You have to bring it up and begin talking about it; and if you can't get anywhere with it, and that feeling is still there, I would urge you to get a professional evaluation."

Loss of interest in sex, change in sleep patterns, demanding more privacy, and making excuses to spend time alone are often warning signs of digital infidelity. (Source:  American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy)

Experts agree that for repeat digital cheaters, seeing a therapist is not sufficient.  Comprehensive multi-step treatment is needed, just like any other addiction.    (Source:  The Today Show, Today's Family, Dealing with Digital Infidelity, August 30, 2016)

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