Abortion Regret and Recovery


  • "Many of the women who have had abortions to remove a “blob of tissue,” later experience serious emotional anguish.
Five women are speaking out to tell the whole world what abortion did to them.  These women gathered together to find peace after many years of emotional torment.  Each woman tried to keep her abortion a secret, but is now expressing her feelings of pain, guilt and regret.  

“Surrender the Secret” is a web series where the untold story that millions of American women never get over their abortion.  Countless women admit they regret their abortions; but for many millions more, they keep it to themselves as a painful secret.  This is a place where women tell of their abortions, and how they have gone from pain to peace. 

“It was just horrible
having to think about what was going on.  I loved this boy so much, that I was willing to sacrifice my own baby to hold on to him.”

“When you have an abortion, you cover it up and try to just move on do life, and those issues come out in so many different ways…depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and suicidal thoughts and behavior….I was numb…I felt lost…it’s a very widespread problem." 

“There is a lot of guilt and regret associated with abortions.  That is a reason why women often keep this torment secret."

"My father forced me to get rid of it.  The abortionist described the injection, “It’s going to make your baby have a heart attack.  You may feel him thrash around, and that’s just him passing.   It was the worst experience of my life, but I named him.  I went home 2 hours later, and it was never spoken of again in my family.  To this day my dad still won’t talk to me about it.”  

“I was one of those women who chose abortion, and thought it was okay, and thought it was the right choice to make.  Now, I don’t think it was the right  choice, and I don’t want any other woman to have to suffer.”  

“The biggest lie women believe is that God can never forgive you for what you have done; and God not only will not forgive you, but there will be retribution upon you.  That is a lie!"    'I will search for the lost and bring back the strays.  I will bind up the injured and strengthen the weak.'   Ezekial 34:12, 15-16   "When we feel the most broken, He is putting it all back together."    

Individual Americans are becoming more knowledgeable about the time between conception and birth, and the majority now think abortion is wrong, especially among young children who think, “It’s a baby.  What if it had been me?”  

“Exodus 2013 And Then There were None” is a program which helps abortion clinic workers leave the industry.  They offer help and support to those who want to walk away from the business of abortion.  From 2012-2013, 45 workers have left the industry.  Abby Johnson, a former abortion clinic director, is now a pro-life advocate.  After watching a 13-week old unborn child fight and struggle for his life during an abortion procedure via an ultrasound, she left the abortion industry.  This program does not want money to ever be the reason someone stays inside the abortion industry.  Exodus 2013 provides financial support, employment resources, emotional support, legal support, and spiritual support to those who want to leave the industry."   CBN News, The 700 Club, Pat Robertson, CBN News, February 2013, April 5, 2013, http://www.CBNNews.com, KnockTV.com, and Anna Higgins from Center for Human Dignity
  • Following abortion, many women experience initial relief. The perceived crisis is over and life returns to normal.  For many women, however, the crisis is not over. Months and even years later, significant problems can develop.

    Women who have experienced abortion may develop the following symptoms of the emotional and psychological impact of an abortion: 
    Guilt
    Grief
    Anger
    Anxiety
    Depression
    Suicidal Thoughts
    Difficulty Bonding with Partner or Children
    Eating Disorder
  • The majority of abortions are paid for by men—because men do not want to accept responsibility for what they have created.  Courts and culture have made abortion all about a woman’s right to choose, thereby freeing men of any legal involvement in that choice. 

    Nearly 60% of women getting abortions say they were coerced or forced to make that choice.  Men who force abortion 1)  show the female in their life that they don’t care enough to protect either the woman or the child, and 2) threaten their child with a death sentence. 

    Women and men who regret their choice to have an abortion may find some comfort at The Abortion Memorial at http://www.AbortionMemorial.com where they can talk about their sorrow and regret.  (“Abortion – the Ultimate Exploitation of Women,” by Brian Fisher, Online for Life President, 700 Club, June 14, 2013)
Statistics
  • 43% of American women under age 45 will have an abortion. 

  • 92% of these women feel emotional deadening.

  • 86% of these women feel post abortion rage.

  • Up to 80% suffer post-abortion trauma.
                         “A Surrendered Life,”  Pat Layton, British Journal of Psychiatry, Sept. 2011, Dr. Pricilla Coleman
What You Can Do
  • Women who feel sadness for previous abortions, may be able to help relieve their sadness by doing something specific in memory of that baby.

  • If you need to talk, contact one of the organizations listed below. 
Local Organizations
Additional Resources
  • Childbirth and Parenting Assistance Program (CAPA)
    CAPA, a program of Catholic Charities, offers post-abortion counseling, provided by a licensed Mental Health therapist.  Call us at (509) 455-4986.     http://www.catholiccharitiesspokane.org/capa-2
     
  • Life Services of Spokane has a team that ministers to men and women troubled by abortions in their past.  If you or someone you know is experiencing these symptoms of emotional and psychological impact of an abortion, our pregnancy center offers confidential, compassionate support designed to help women and men work through these feelings. You are not alone.

    If you wish to begin the healing process from a past abortion or abortions, we offer one-on-one and group classes and workshops, free of charge. Deciding to seek help may be one of the toughest decisions you have to make, but it may be one of the best.  To talk to someone about issues from a past abortion, please call us.  All calls are confidential.  Call our confidential phone number at (509) 444-9035, or email path@lifeservices.org     
    http://www.lifeservices.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=4&Itemid=13

  • Women and men who regret their choice to have an abortion may find some comfort at The Abortion Memorial at http://www.AbortionMemorial.com


    (This information is intended for general education purposes only and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional medical advice.)